Fixing Yourself Won’t Make You Better

I was reminded of one of my favorite quotes the other day, this one is credited to Albert Einstein:

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

Why fixing what is wrong with you won’t make you a better person

There is nothing “wrong” with you. Don’t believe that lie for a second! Even Superman was useless in the presence of kryptonite. Whatever your kryptonite is, there is no need to repeatedly attack it head on, trying desperately to defeat it. If it is a weakness – have someone else handle it. Superman is smart enough to know that he can call Batman or Wonder Woman or the Flash to come and chunk that kryptonite into outer space for him.

I admit, I’m a lifelong optimist. I have never seen a half empty glass. I have always anticipated the rainbow after the storm. I have always tried to look on the bright side.

That’s why it bothers me when people tell me I’m not good enough. Sure I am! I might not meet your expectations on this topic, but I bet I’ll surpass your expectations on another one!

If I’m a fish, I’m obviously not going to try to climb a tree…why would others expect that of me? Why would I expect that of me if it is so far outside of my natural abilities?

So, first things first:

1. Recognize your weaknesses and don’t be afraid to ask for help or let someone else handle them.

You have strengths and weakness just like the rest of us, but if you constantly work at bolstering your weaknesses, you’ll never have the opportunity to show off your strengths and do things that excite and fulfill you! I’m horrible at math. Everyone I know knows how bad I am. I hate algebra. I hate geometry. I hate mathematics in every shape, form, and function. I appreciate the people out there who love it, though, and I will more than happily share my burden with them! I’ll let the math genius handle my accounting – because it takes the frustration out for me and allows that person to use their strengths and to do work that excites them and fills them up!

Which brings me to rule number two:

2. Use your strengths to be a blessing to others.

If you love math, then there are people like me who are desperately seeking you! I need your skills! Why? Because I waste my precious time trying to figure out equations and formulas and would much rather hire you to do it so that I can do what I love. You are blessing me when you use your strengths…you can bless a whole LOT of people when you work within your strengths. When you try to fix your weaknesses, you’re selling yourself short and taking time away from truly rewarding work.

There is a caveat here, though. If you are a brilliant accountant who is serving others with your mad bookkeeping skills, you should probably have good customer service skills, record keeping and organization skills, and time management skills. Those are necessary components of any successful business. If you don’t have those skills, then be willing to hire someone who is a strong customer service professional with detail-oriented organization skills who can keep you on-task and on-time, fulfilling customer needs.

Otherwise, you’ll be that person:

3. There is nothing worse than walking into a place of business and encountering that employee. You know, the one who is there for the paycheck and benefits. Don’t be that person!

You’re not doing yourself or anyone else any favors when you drag yourself to work everyday, counting down the minutes to your first break, lunch hour, and quitting time. You’ll be a burden on your boss, you’ll ruin your co-worker’s day, AND you’ll be stressed out and miserable.

You have at least a handful of unique, useful, undeniable talents! These are things that you truly love to do and people often comment, “geez, you’re really great at that!” But it’s always good to have clarity and understanding about ourselves that is measurable. I have most of my clients do a strengths assessment test to determine their top five strengths.

After I did this test it was very clear to me that I was working within my strengths, but knowing and understanding them…being able to give my strengths a name…that was powerful and has allowed me to improve upon my strengths so that I am even more effective, efficient, and joyful in my daily tasks.

I’m not a tree-climbing fish. Neither are you! But maybe you are one heck of a bubble-blowing fish! Or a very acrobatic, tree-climbing squirrel! Work within your strengths!!!


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3 Responses to Fixing Yourself Won’t Make You Better

    • I was just introduced to VIA Character Strengths! Thanks for sharing. I fully believe in the power of self-discovery for growth and success, in all areas of life. Think you’re ready to explore those findings with some 1-on-1 coaching?

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